For a few months my homegirl has been dating this guy and after like I guess abt 4 months, they've decided to be exclusive. So now they've been talking about taking off the condom... OK OK... that's not it.. it's already happened.. they caught the vapors and it was on.. with no bag. My girl is in healthcare.. sees all types of ills, so she's nervous.. I mean we've all got caught up in the heat of the moment rite... so she's like.. "listen, we both have pasts.. it's no secret... let's be safe.. let's get tested together" So he's like.. "OK!" He's confident.. makes her feel good.. she REALLY likes this dude. So they go for their testing.. TOGETHER... When it's results time, he goes to his room, she goes to hers.. Doc said.. everything's checked 'n clear.. she of course is elated.. so she waited for him in the waiting area.. He comes out, sees her, smiles and says everything is good.. Great!... After a few days he calls and says... "Look we've got to talk." So my girl, nervous, is like "OK.. let's meet." When they hook up homeboy says " I didn't want to say anything before, I needed a few days. But um, I have herpes." Of course my girl is shocked.. pissy and and asks "Did u know b/4 we got tested?".. "NO" is his response.... he never tested b/4......... So, #1: WHAT WOULD U DO...STAY OR GO?
and #2: If the roles were reversed.....would you tell your partner?
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I am a little JADED, cause I deal with STD's all day everyday, I see things differently. I think that they should have gotten tested before they went all willy nilly RAW! Four months is not long enough to go unprotected with someone. In four months U don't know that dude U know his represen-ative. Character is making the difficult decisions regardless of the out come. The dude has no character, why does it take several days for him to tell? That is a conversation that should have occured there on the spot...
Would I have told her yes right there on the spot. If U really did not know and it was something U just found out U should not mind telling her.
4 the record all the STD people on the blog are going to say that this is BS. There is no test that give specifics for HSV 1 or 2. If he was told that he was hsv 2 he had sypmtoms. If he had symptoms she would have saw the evidence, which means he did not have sypmtoms and out and out knew before the testing that he was + HSV.
I would NOT stay and if it was vice /versa, I would not say anything.
Okay #1 Ron let's not forget if the doc told the dude he had herpes then the doc had to see symptoms.....u can see herpes symptoms 1 day to some months after exposure this could have been his first time seeing symptoms because maybe he got it from the girl. Anyway though if I was the chick I would not have stayed. 4 months is not long enough for that type of ish.....I don't see anything wrong with waiting three days to tell her at least he told. It ain't like it's chlamydia or something, there's no cure.
There would be nothing at all you could do..Unless you kill dude!! But thats a temporary solution..Cause either you're going to have it or not!!! I guess then thats when you would tell them to pray..pray and go get tested again... But that messed up!!!!!But it happens!!Thanks for opening up the minds!!!xoxo
Run like HELL. There's no way I sleep with a guy knowing he has herpies. To quote a great mind "HELL TO THE NAW BOBBI".
I think they really should have gotten tested way before taking that first big step, but hey the whole glass house thing. But I'm saying, how messed up is it for him to wait to tell her.
We all make mistakes, and I won't say I'm perfect, but I would have said something right then. That's the only fair thing. The only right thing.
umm he is lucky she didnt cut him i would b soooooo angry bc it isnt his right 2 choose 4 me, less of a chance of an outbreak means that i could still catch it officially an @sshole!!! i would post his pix on dont date him girl and get the h@ll out bc whats next "ohh baby I have HIV but I didn't wear a condom bc I have had it for 5 yrs now and I am taking medication & it hasn't progressed into AIDs so I figured u probably wouldn't catch it" LOSER!!!
It appears to me that not enough people are educated on STDs. It is worse to catch MRSA rather that Herpes, Look it up.
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