Hey... a friend of mine has been dating this guy for a year. Things have been really good between them. He's an attorney and she's an accountant. Things are going so well that they have decided to move in together.. Nothing unusual. He decides it's time for her to meet his fam..... so on said weekend for the "meet the parents" trip, my homegirl does it up... you know -- it's what we do.. we gots to impress moms. The cleavage.. just enuf sexy so that she can't say it's inappropriate, but of course, enough to make ur man happy (and his dad.. haha.. ok jks), dress -- OF COURSE -- nice heel length in the shoes, make up, just a hint--- THINK HALLE, WHEN SHE FIRST MET GABE'S MOM -- yea, like that! So when when they pull up to the house, well, let's just say.. it wasn't in the best of neighborhoods.. but you know what.. THAT'S HER BOO.. who cares.. his fam held him down so he could pull himself up from his bootstraps.. and when moms walked out to greet them --- (screeeeeeeech)- she's in a neglige and smiled to floss 2 gold teeth... O-M-G!... Of course my girl is taken aback.. like.. WHAT.. MY BOO COMES FROM THIS.. OH ISH.... The weekend.. let's just say it's uneventful... moms is just as bad as she looks.. doesn't give a WHAT!, smokes blunts, and is rude to my girl to boot.. can u believe this ish??.. yeah.. MOMS DON'T LIKE THE NEW "STUSH" -ITCH IN TOWN.. WTF???? (I mean, cause she didn't have her grills ready for the weekend??? is she kidding me????)... Ladies and gents.. my girl's conundrum is.. she wants to marry this dude.. she wants a family with him... but u know what they say.. you marry the boo and his family. WHAT WOULD YOU DO????
May 29, 2007
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
So homegirl is still wit her boo.. but she's struggling still. There are holidays, family reunions and random visits that she still has to consider. The treatment EVERYTIME she goes is MAD shady. Sometimes there are arguments between them surrounding how she feels about his fam. Nonetheless, she's in luv and she's hanging in there. The revolution will NOT be televised!
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Awww man! This is tough! I don't even know what to say. I'll be back later...give me time!
Id say who cares...she aint marrying his mama...and obviously weekend trips to Nana's are OUT OF THE QUESTION!!!
This sounds just like that movie "Who Made the Pototoe Salad"! Just hope if she marries him, they move far far away making the times she has to face the fam very far and in between!
Taina's right... this one's tough. On one hand, you CAN say that she's not marrying his mama. BUT, on the other hand it's like having a Baby Daddy... it ain't neva ova!
I say marry him if you love him, but better be ready for the drama. Hard to come between boys and their mamas.
This much is for certain, he absolutely CANNOT allow his mother to be disrespectful. If it continues, trust and believe that it won't stop because of a wedding!
Whatever's gonna happen, let it happen BEFORE the commitment.
WOW I think she needs 2 take a real honest look at her man and what r the lil things about him that she doesn't like and if it has 2 do with $$ or reliability then she needs 2 bail bc even though u shouldn't b judged by ur parents they still come into account, it goes 1 of 2 ways either u have their tendencies or u have taken what they have taught u and gone ur own way with it for better or worse
yeah see this is the prob if he is a momma's boy then he is always gonna take her side against u hmm i dont know.... I think we need 2 take a close look at who we r marrying+ their fam etc bc u may not see it now but u r a product of ur environment hmm interesting...this is a hard 1 but a ghetto mom? yeah that could b a prob right around the time u start combining ur households and havin children and u KNOW she is gonna show OUT at the wedding hahahaha good luck!!
u DONT leave ur 'boo" thats for sure...actually..ive dated this guy...and um.. HATED the moms...HATE her till this day...i tried..but bitch was trifling...and dude always thought she was right...fkin hood rat ho
..honestly, that ghetto ass moms helped duke cheat on me...let the other biotch sleep over her house...had the FKING NERVE to call me the next day ( the moms) and say, thanks for letting me son stay over here with ( because we were living together at the time, me and dude) sooo i was like ...why u thanking me? WHY cuz u a ghetto ass biotch...dude ended up stealing $$$ from me, left me for the other girl in an apt that i got kicked out of..and the moms was in on it the ENTIRE time...calling me to get info and shi*t...and till this very day..i want to call authorities on her lying to the system ass about her getting her welfare and housing being a hoax...i take it back...LEAVE DUDE. but i dont want to be judged by my parents...i dunno...
None of this stuff should matter! After all, they come from the SAME place!
Mike
THE HELL WITH HIS FAMILY. If she's feeling this guy I say go ahead with building a life with him. You are not marrying his family. Now, if he's a momma's boy then run like HELL.
Do what I did... Tell your man his moms is hood and there will be minimal contact. The ball's in his court...
Ok, I'm back!!
I say to go ahead with the relationship! Although, know that the family will ALWAYS be in the pic!! ALWAYS! You just gotta learn to deal with it!
My boi owns a gang of property in Florida, the mom that is being described in this story is his mom : ) As a young child I would go to their house just to see what would come out of her mouth next ( Funny as HELL!!! Luv Luv Luved it / Love Her : )
They were mad ghetto, roaches every where, but she loved her kids enough to want and give them more. Momma's always have problems with the woman that their sons date, because when the one comes along it means that she will be replaced as the light of his life.
She should talk to him, if he is a real man he will never choose his mom over his soon to be wife. He gotta man up. But ya gurl gotta talk to mom and let her know that she is the real deal, and she will have her sons back no matter what!!! Also let moms know that she is not trying to replace her, but she is trying to be apart of his life for the rest of his life... If the momma got any sense that will put her at ease.
DAYUM! I can say I haven't had to deal with that in any of my relationships, but if it did come up I would first talk to my Boo, if I thought he was the "ONE" and be straight up with him about Moms. If he accepts the "Constructive Critism" kindly then some kind of understanding can come out of it like........Me & your don't get along so don't expect it, she stays in her house I stay in mine, and the list can go on.
On the other hand if your not looking to be with him to Hell with him & his Momma and it's time for him to move out!
A good man is so hard to find.....DEAL WITH IT OR BE LONELY. I would just deal with it. There is no such thing as the perfect mail. I dont want a perfect man, because I would be paranoid waiting for some dark secret to surface. Food for thought.
I think that they should break up in my experience the relationship will not work. You can not tell someone what amout of contact they can have with relatives. If you don't want your future children around the mother leave. From expeirence it will cause problems. Your spouse will be hurt that you don't consider his mother an appropiate sitter. Leave before it get complicated.
hmmm well here's the thing when you see all the warning signs and don't pay attention and things hit the fan u only have urself 2 blame so i wish sis lots of luck but apparently her man hasn't let his fam know that she is a keeper and needs 2 treat her right or else there is going 2 b a problem- its beyond her handling it, her man has 2 otherwise she is always gonna b a second class citizen.
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