My peoples, my peoples... I really need ur help with this one... homegirl meets boo.. falls in love with boo..they're living together.. and they are now engaged.. Nothing unusual.. but this is WWUD!! On her home computer, homegirl finds out that her boo communicates with his ex-girlfriend on the reg... so one day "checking mail" she reads that her boyfriend announces his engagement to the ex.. YIPEE.. um.. no.. hold up. And so ex says.."Nice. What kind of ring did u get her?".. His response: "It's the one u gave bac to me 2 years ago!" SHE LOVES HIM PEOPLE..
WHAT WOULD YOU DO??
THE OUTCOME:
Yep.. she left him!
18 comments:
Oh shit...I actually know a guy who had a ring designed for his girlfriend but then had second thoughts about proposing. I was amazed when I heard one of his buddies wanted to buy the ring from him! What a-hole is going to give a ring bought with someone else in mind to another girl!??? Sucks for your friend...I wish I could say what I would do but I really have no idea. All I can say is it looks like this sort of thing may not be so uncommon...
Awww hell to the muthaf'n nizzaw!!! I'm appauled! He could've at least sold the ring or something and purchased a new one! You can't just give the same ring! You just can't! It's supposed to have meaning!
This is tough because if she says something about it then he'll know that she read his emails! Darn it! She has to find a way for him to tell her that he gave her the same ring.
HELL NO. She's crazy if she keeps that ring. I would bring to his attention that If he wants to marry me he would really need to get another ring. And, it better out shine the one he gave them.
You know I am very passionate not crazy when it comes to a man....saying all that....although he still was contacting his ex I wouldn't have made it an issue since you didn't mention that he was trying to rekindle any flames with her so that's not an issue, but as far as the ring, you are put in a situation on whether or not you want to sell yourself out for snooping but flaunt that...I definately would have made a federal case out this one....that ring would have served as a c0ck ring when I was done with him. If it were a money issue, atleast respect me enough to trade the old ring in and get me a new one, who wants the ex's residue around their finger...this isn't a ring that belonged to your grandmother or your mom that is being past down the generations, this is a ring you bought for your ex that you were saving for a rainy day! I wish he would!!! You girls ever saw the show SNAPPED....nuff said.
Well, first of all I'm not concerned with him finding out that I snooped, because you'll always be able to snoop again. Second I would have to say something because when your ready to marry someone that is suppose to mean something, and a ring is a symbol of the meaning. So basically he's saying .....shoot save me some money and pass this bad boy down to the next, she'll never find out! We will be at the next jewlery shop exchanging that ring and geting another. Oh and it would't be an even exchange, oh yes his adding a couple dollars to the one I want!
Oh HELL NAW! I would bring it to his attention, I wouldn't give a DAYUM if he knew I read his e-mails. Trade the bytch pawn it or something & I want a BIGGER & BETTER one.
If he's not willing to do that I'll keep it, pawn it & quit his azz for being in contact with his ex!! LOL
Darlene....
Beat his azz and pawn the ring.
b 4 we even get to the ring, why is he talkn to his ex, damn that.......but when u go looking u usually find something. that's what she gets............What she wouldn't have known wouldn't have hurt her. But since she does know now that's messed up. I wouldn't want the ring and the convo with sis has to stop.
To sarah, what's wrong with the guy buying a ring that was designed for someone else.......To him it's just a pretty ring that his girl might like. no different than if it was in a jewelry store....
Tahira.. I KNOW ur not saying ANYTHING abt snooping
Tahira (re: 2nd comment)...so u wouldnt have a problem with a recycled ring?....What's wrong with just buying me a new one?
None of this would be an issue if he wasn't still in contact with her ass. Why is he talkin' to his ex regularly and why would he tell ex that he's giving wifey her old ring? He would have to get a new ring cuz he would be pullin that old one out of his dumb ass.
Damn! This is much deeper than a ring though... he's obviously still hung up on the ex. Why else would he keep in touch? She's probably "the one that got away". He's flaunting the fact that he's engaged probably trying to get a reaction outta her. Hell, it's probably not even the same ring!! Who does that? That's retarded!
I would be sooooo HOT!! snooping or no snooping umm the same ring that she "gave back" yeah 1 of 2 things would occur here I would either "lose the ring" (aka pawn it haha) or i would come up with something 2 trap his triflin @ss and it would go a lil somethin like this "babe the stone in my ring is coming loose I want 2 take it back 2 the jewler u bought it from and get them 2 fix it, where is the receipt? ohh u dont have it? ok where did u get it from?" (and being a man he will only know the name of that 1 jeweler) and then i would wait a couple of days tell him i took it there and that they said that it isnt a new ring and that it was bought 2yrs ago & then i would flat out ask him if he bought the ring 4 the ex and then gave it to me bc chances r he wont b prepared 4 the question and then we would take it from there- I want 2 say that after we exchanged it (for a much larger ring) that i could dead it but i dont know this 1 is just trife hahaha
HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Why? SHHHHHHHHHH****************T Point 1. Gave me someones sloppy second. The Ex. might as well gave it to home girl herself. Point 2. You told The Ex about the situation leaving homegirl open to Embarassment and Shame by the Ex. She will be ridiculed, everyone will know and say "Damn that ring looks familiar!" Point 3. What the heck is he doing talking to his Ex that he almost married? Cheap, minimum wage MF, GO KILL YOURSELF. Dont do it, "There all going to laugh at you." Oh yeah, what kild of MF takes a ring back, Indian Giver. Sorry, NO WAY, NO HOW. He would have to buy me another or "ITs over, Its Over, Now, Move over. Your games shut DOWn......SORRY."
OOPs, error. I wrote Kild, instead of Kind, please note my correction.
Ah hah...the story of the recycled engagement ring! I believe that I once received a recycled ring so coming from someone who knows, I will play devil's advocate and have us consider a few things:
1. If it had not been for the common snoop that all of us women do, she would not have been the wiser. But are you ready to disclose that you do P.I. work on the side?
2. It appears that ex is not an issue because he is appears to be professing his love for his new boo to her. (Although personally, I may not be to comfortable with too much extracurricular convo with ex.)
3. What is the current financial status of soon to be boo fo life? To a man, not having money to purchase an engagement ring could be of an embarrassing nature.
4. Now that we know the truth, what is the risk of damaging a relationship that appears to be going in the right direction? Are you going to leave him if you don't get a response that makes you feel better about the situation? Does it make him a "loser"?
5. Ladies....we always forget...these are men we are talking about! We react with emotion...they react with what they believe to be common sense...and the operative phrase is "what they believe"!
In conclusion, this is my recommendation:
Consider the entire nature of your relationship. If you believe you can confront him with the info you know...go ahead...see what the brotha has to say. But be prepared for him to change the topic from ring to "what the hell were you doing reading my email?!"...now it will be a trust and privacy thing! Be prepared to argue you're case cause he will hold on to that for dear life!
This is going to keep you up nights...so whether you directly confront him with the evidence or you find a round-a-bout way of making it the conversation on the ride home, let him know one way or another. Make up a story about a coworker getting a recycled ring...whateva...just let him know that wouldn't be acceptable for you.
(...and just so you know...in my case, I realized that the relationship wasn't all it was cracked up to be anyway so I told him to give it the person he originally bought if for. Of course he was clueless but it served my purpose to end the relationship!)
Good luck...and remember, if its real, it will last!
Women, Women, Women!!! The problem is that she is going through homeboys messages, mail etc. Men are very logical it goes without saying that in our minds if U spend 10K on a ring that U do not go to a jeweler where dude is going to give U 5K for something that U paid double for. Loss of 5K does not sit well with us. He is not being cheap more he was being practical...
It is not a question of Love to us, if he asked he clearly loves her. The EX is not an issue if he wanted her chances are he would have her. If they speak by way of email I see nothing wrong with that she obvisouly did not mention that there was something inappropiate being said between them.
I Luv my best friend because Donte is full of stories :) Dude bought a ring for some Krazy broad that we had to do an intervention to keep him from marrying. Great sex is neva a reason to marry ( but that is a diff top for a diff week : ) He gave the ring to his current wife. He neva gave
it to the initial skank, so what is the problem. Yet even if he did give it to the skank why does it matter if his current wife is happy with the ring as is the lady in the scenerio...
1. Men don't get emotional about weddings we do it for yall.
2. Men don't care about rings we buy them for yall.
3. As it was inconsiderate to recycle the ring, the man did not take into consideration the possibility of her finding out.
4. If she brings up the snooping it may be a deal breaker. If he values his privacy ALL DEALS are off...
I don't think this is a bad dude, but for sanity he might as well upgrade the rock so he can have rest in his home!!!
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